At the December Reiki circle that Holly and I attended, the Master suggested that instead of making a New Year’s Resolution, we pick a topic to be the Theme of our New Year. Example, love. This year I will incorporate love into every aspect of my life. At first it will be a conscious effort, but eventually it will become second nature.
I like this idea. And tho it is already February, I have come up with my theme. Love and Peace have been themes of my life since as long as I can remember. So it would sort of be a cop-out to say Love or Peace. They will continue to be my themes. But my newest theme, in addition to them, will be boundaries. I guess it seems like kind of an odd theme, but I have put a lot of thought into this and as a loving, peaceful person, I tend to let people “walk all over me” or infiltrate my “bubble.”
But over the past year, especially, I have become aware that you cannot have a truly loving relationship without boundaries! Be it a boss who thinks he owns you because he went to school and has a title and you do not, or a friend who is much more “type A” and therefore, knowingly or unknowingly” runs the friendship. Or when is the right time in a relationship to reveal a truth to someone, and when is it too soon to cross that line? When is it okay for someone to comment on your personal choices, and when is it really just not their business? And vice versa.
So, all of that to say, in order to love and be loved more truly and completely, I shall have boundaries as my theme this year.
